My professor recently said, 'Absence breeds a certain kind of love.' He said the more you are taken away from something, the more you feel you want it and it makes you realize how much you actually love it. But is it true anymore to say that? Does absence breed love or does it eradicate the love because it isn't in front of your eyes or maybe because we have simply found better love?
You know, it's funny how subjectivity works, how sometimes what we believe is right has to be right and we cannot take into account what someone else has to offer. Selfishness now seems to look as if it's a virtue more than a problem towards an individual. It is simple, if you are selfish enough to ruin yourself and not ruin the loved ones around you, you certainly are the best. You let go of ten lovable things in life just so you can retain that one that may just be 5% or even 50% more valuable, and trust me you are gold. Why? Because that one singular thing will make sure you lose so much if you do not retain it.
And that is exactly what we fear, don't we? Losing that one thing that makes us a tad bit happier.
So what if we lose? We perhaps lose that extra happiness of everyday. We lose that bit of joy everyday. We may even lose that bit of contentment each day. And that is the fear that saves us, the fear of losing all of this. That is exactly what keeps us going. We don't give up on an X thing just because that thing assumes we don't want it anymore. There is a reason fear exists, to help us, to keep us going. Yes, we may argue that this fear when utilized leads us to take everything for granted, but that's the misconception. Fear when come in with the subjectivity it bases its premise on from the context, instills the love and dear want for us to get X so very bad that we let go of fear completely.
I do not completely like technology, not everything about it, simply because it ruins relationships. Any and every kind. (No, it's not when auto-correct sends b*tch instead of glitch at times). 25 years ago, if a man loved a woman, he'd have to make every effort possible to make sure he stays in touch with the woman or else he will lose her. What resources did man have? A telephone maybe? Of course a paper and pen but that would not be enough now, would it. But despite all of that, a man and a woman would trust each other for as long as they could, believe in each other for as long as they could just so they could be together, if not lovers but even if two individuals as friends. This would, if nothing else, at least make their love grow fonder because they would have believed in it way too much.
Now, you do not reply to one message and boy you are screwed. Friendship? Over. Why is that? Is it because it is easier to communicate? Is it because it is cheaper? Or is it simply because our subjectivity of friendship has grown so much that we cannot stick to one or can we not have simple patience anymore?
Funny story when this actually had to happen that a man wanted to marry a woman and he had to wait for a certain amount of time before he could convince his family to give it a green light simply because the girl was not of the same caste, and this is almost two decades gone by. Today, one has to choose between convincing the family (IF they object, of course) and convincing the girl that the family will be convinced.
I'm not a famous writer, I'm not even a famous blogger and I know I haven't written anything much that might make sense but I just pose this question that I really wish someone could help me with. Why do friendships not last anymore despite best efforts of some? Why do we need to keep trying and trying and trying to sustain a relationship? Why is it difficult to be good? And why is it that despite saying it out loud can we not actually listen to our hearts?
Does absence breed a certain kind of love or does absence disallow you to love at all?
You know, it's funny how subjectivity works, how sometimes what we believe is right has to be right and we cannot take into account what someone else has to offer. Selfishness now seems to look as if it's a virtue more than a problem towards an individual. It is simple, if you are selfish enough to ruin yourself and not ruin the loved ones around you, you certainly are the best. You let go of ten lovable things in life just so you can retain that one that may just be 5% or even 50% more valuable, and trust me you are gold. Why? Because that one singular thing will make sure you lose so much if you do not retain it.
And that is exactly what we fear, don't we? Losing that one thing that makes us a tad bit happier.
So what if we lose? We perhaps lose that extra happiness of everyday. We lose that bit of joy everyday. We may even lose that bit of contentment each day. And that is the fear that saves us, the fear of losing all of this. That is exactly what keeps us going. We don't give up on an X thing just because that thing assumes we don't want it anymore. There is a reason fear exists, to help us, to keep us going. Yes, we may argue that this fear when utilized leads us to take everything for granted, but that's the misconception. Fear when come in with the subjectivity it bases its premise on from the context, instills the love and dear want for us to get X so very bad that we let go of fear completely.
I do not completely like technology, not everything about it, simply because it ruins relationships. Any and every kind. (No, it's not when auto-correct sends b*tch instead of glitch at times). 25 years ago, if a man loved a woman, he'd have to make every effort possible to make sure he stays in touch with the woman or else he will lose her. What resources did man have? A telephone maybe? Of course a paper and pen but that would not be enough now, would it. But despite all of that, a man and a woman would trust each other for as long as they could, believe in each other for as long as they could just so they could be together, if not lovers but even if two individuals as friends. This would, if nothing else, at least make their love grow fonder because they would have believed in it way too much.
Now, you do not reply to one message and boy you are screwed. Friendship? Over. Why is that? Is it because it is easier to communicate? Is it because it is cheaper? Or is it simply because our subjectivity of friendship has grown so much that we cannot stick to one or can we not have simple patience anymore?
Funny story when this actually had to happen that a man wanted to marry a woman and he had to wait for a certain amount of time before he could convince his family to give it a green light simply because the girl was not of the same caste, and this is almost two decades gone by. Today, one has to choose between convincing the family (IF they object, of course) and convincing the girl that the family will be convinced.
I'm not a famous writer, I'm not even a famous blogger and I know I haven't written anything much that might make sense but I just pose this question that I really wish someone could help me with. Why do friendships not last anymore despite best efforts of some? Why do we need to keep trying and trying and trying to sustain a relationship? Why is it difficult to be good? And why is it that despite saying it out loud can we not actually listen to our hearts?
Does absence breed a certain kind of love or does absence disallow you to love at all?
